Tag: gay men
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When Your Partner Is Diagnosed With HIV
When your partner is diagnosed with HIV, there is often an adjustment period for both of you. Even in 2026, despite PrEP, effective HIV treatments, and the widespread understanding of U=U (Undetectable = Untransmittable), an HIV diagnosis can still feel emotionally overwhelming. For most gay and bisexual guys, there is an initial shock. For many…
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Your Mental Health Deserves a GP for Gay Men
Many gay men grow up believing they must look after themselves on their own. We learn to self-manage, to minimise our needs, and to keep parts of ourselves hidden from doctors who might not understand. For some of us, this leads to a habit of moving between GP practices whenever something feels uncomfortable. But a…
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Daddy Issues and Gay Men: Ageism or Anxious Attachment?
Daddy Issues. Gay men throw this expression around casually. You’ll see it on TikTok, hear it in passing jokes and it’s used to shame those who are attracted to older partners. But what does it actually mean? And more importantly, is it helpful or harmful? Not all daddy issues are about trauma. And not all…
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Sizing Up: When We Compete with other Gay Men in Gay Communities
Gay Community is a hotly contested topic. Many argue it is exclusive and divisive and some even question its existence. How do gay men respond to the expectation to compete with other men? Recently I wrote of growing up gay in Queensland in the 1970s and 80s. I attended an all-boys school which encouraged us…